Family Law
Why living with your in-laws will be problematic
When you’re married, you should plan on having your own home. If you plan on living with your own family, you will run into many problems. In the beginning, you might not experience any problems but down the road you will experience many problems. Most of the time, they are interpersonal problems among family members. Even your own family fights occasionally so an in-law will definitely strike the meter. Unless, your family belongs to a really good church, you will have problems. Little things here and there will bottle up and it will blow up one day. I have seen it with my cousins and when they blow up, it’s the end of the world. They fight until somebody will call the cops.
Yes, it can be that bad. One of my cousins had to get a restrain order against her husband because he said that he will harm all of them. He kidnapped his child and left her home. He assaulted his mother in-law. He called her names and threatens to hit her. This was when he got laid off from his job. I guess he doesn’t handle a laid off very well. It can happen to you too. What if your husband got laid off one day? Will he go home and start things with you and your family? It’s easy to start a fight but it will take a lifetime for the in-laws to forgive you. My cousin in-law went and begged his parent in-law for forgiveness but they didn’t forgive him. They find it hard to forgive him after he called them names and kick them out of their own home. Things like this have happened to many families and it can happen to you too if you stay with your in-laws.
When you’re married, you have to take up the responsibility to have your own home. It’s impossible to blend in with a big family and expect everyone to get along. I live with my own parents and we don’t even get along. We don’t speak to each other at all so I don’t see how I can do it with my in-laws. Plus, I do not want my in-laws to see me fight with my husband or to see me in my boxer daily. I think I would really appreciate my own freedom.
If you live with your in-laws, you will have to drive away every time you want to fight with your husband or every time you need to throw a party. It doesn’t happen easily when you live with your in-laws. You can’t smoke or drink when you want too either because they will look at you like you have problems. They will watch your every move and that’s not something that anyone can handle. If you like your personal freedom and you don’t like to be told what to do then you should never live with your in-laws. They will criticize you. They will talk behind your back. They will watch your every move. They will harbor a lot of problems for you and your wife. You will resent them. You will blow up one day. If you want a good relationship with your in-laws, you should have your own place and visit them once in awhile. They will not see or hear most of your problems and they will like and appreciate you more. If you visit the in-laws once every holiday is good enough, this way they don’t have much to talk about.
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Family Law question by robhay: Is family law the most stressful and frustrating practice are for lawyers?
I am a new attorney who has been practicing about six months now. I do primarily family law cases, and it seems like whatever I get for my clients they’re still not happy. They expect me to get them every single things they want no matter how unreasonable. Any other family law attorneys experienced this?
My clients don’t pay me. I work for legal aid.
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Answer by Michelle S
Think about this. Who is ever happy to be in any situation where lawyers have to get involved. Weather it’s family law, criminal law, personal injury, or even corporate.
In family law people are dealing with divorces and child custody. Even if they win they still just went through a traumatic ordeal. Have a little compassion and be glad you make $ 200 an hour.
I practice family law.
Family law is a thankless job. Emotions are higher in family law than in any other type of law. People’s families are being ripped apart, they aren’t going to be able to see their children every day, their standard of living is going down, etc. All of these things make family law clients crazy. Seriously. They are angry, scared, and confused, and because of this they often have a hard time thinking straight.
They also have very unreasonable expectations. Stay at home moms want to be able to continue staying at home (ha! Not going to happen!) A woman who has been married for a whopping two years wants alimony. A dad who travels all of the time for work and isn’t an involved dad wants 50/50 physical custody. What clients don’t understand is that their definition of “fair” isn’t necessarily how it works in the legal world.
Clients also don’t understand why the court system takes so long. I have clients constantly bitch at me because the other party hasn’t responded to discovery requests. They don’t understand that all I can do is file a motion to compel, and that takes time. Clients blame me when the earliest available court date is in two months. Family law attorneys are constantly blamed by their clients for things that are completely out of control.
Clients get angry about the process or the realities of divorce, and the most convenient scapegoat is their divorce attorney.
All of this said, I love practicing family law. Many attorneys won’t get anywhere near a family law case. So it just takes a certain personality.
You have to be able to be fulfilled with your job without any positive feedback from your clients. You have to listen to them complain and even blame and accuse you, and then just let it roll off your back and chalk it up to all of the emotions they are going through. I’m able to do this, so I’m able to enjoy my job. I love hearing people’s stories. There’s always new and crazy things happening in people’s lives, so I never get bored. It’s a strange job where you sort through every aspect of a family’s personal life – finances, sex life, health, etc. I just find all of this very interesting, which is why I like the job.